Fellation or fellatio is a common phenomenon in the empire of sexuality everywhere in the world. What is fellatio? It is the oral sex stimulation of the male genitals, which is primarily the penis, by females. Even though it is a common sexual act among all classes of people across the globe, there are still some cultural communities here and there where this act is considered a taboo and looked down upon as a sinful and offensive social evil. If the western communities with some exceptions advocate the practice of fellation, the oriental communities widely discourage and disparage this practice. But we might not be right always in saying that this practice has anything to do with such cultural and racial polarizations as human nature fundamentally is the same everywhere in the world.
Oral sex has been widely acclaimed and proclaimed by the great Indian sage Vathsyayan in his Magnum Opus Kama Sutra. Among the various sixty four poses advocated by the sage, there is equal importance given to the fellatio practice. Many other cultures in the world also have advocated this practice with some great significance attached to it. However, many women, irrespective of cultural, religious, geographic, racial, differences, abhor the whole idea of a deep throat experience thrust upon them by their male partners. Some women even go to the extent of brandishing this practice as a matter of male chauvinism as in the case of many other social, economic and political discrimination.
Medically examined, this fellatio experience has nothing to do with any immoral and unnatural social tradition. The only environment for this practice to be medically viable and approved is that the partners both male and female engaged in this sort of sexual gratification must be perfectly healthy and hygienic with maximum cleanliness practiced. If the donor and the recipient are not so much of a hygienic nature, there is every chance of dangerous sexually transmitted diseases affecting the partners. If for example the penis has some minor wounds or the mouth cavity of the female partner has some unseen sore they must abstain from resorting to such acts lest they should catch dangerous diseases. If cleanliness is not your daily routine habit, better it is for you to gratify yourself with other means.
Is there any morality about fellation? Some people both men and women alike detest the practice of oral sex not simply because they don’t want it biologically, but because they are afraid of the social and moral implications that might arise out of their course of action. If fellation is to be tabooed as immoral, then the whole idea of sex has to be withdrawn from society because fellation is only part of sex, or rather it is one of the myriads of means by which the absolute sexual pleasure has to be enjoyed with the culmination of orgasmic moments.
Simply because some inexperienced women figure it out to be an act of horrible sexual perversion, based entirely on their own personal fanciful and wistful private notions evolved out from certain controlled and restricted environments with very little exposure to the multicultural and multidimensional socializations, a very great and potential tradition conducive both to the biological and psychological upbringing and progress of our lives, cannot be ignored forthwith. Some men and women remain chronic bachelors and spinsters. Is there anyone bold enough to say that the institution of marriage is a very outmoded tradition to be replaced with something innovative? There are always people with divergent opinions and tastes on social and cultural values and notions.
Can fellation be taken to fetch any legal complications in a society? It can create legal issues in so far as it is a matter of social importance because here the participants involved are quite human whose lives are always socially bound and accountable to the fellow beings. Just as any socially important matter touching the lives of human beings can at any time be a source of concern to be addressed legally, fellation too sometimes falls under the mercy of some verdict passed by an officially accountable body. To go deeper into the issue, when a female partner objects to the sexual advancement of fellation meted out to her by the male partner, how can law try to interpret the entire situation and address the social responsibility of the issue and finally settle it amicably? Can law in any culture or country embark upon an impartial interpretation and objective verdict on this question? No. Impossible.
First of all, law fails where man’s private life begins. Sex is something to be enjoyed by both the partners in an encouraging environment conducive to the fullest satisfaction of the act. It is not a contractual action, though the partners engaged are so legally potential by an official agreement. The act of sex germinates not from the body, but from the inner vibrations of the partners. No law in the material world can govern its commencement, course, method, evolution, culmination or the consequential result.
No woman can litigate upon the issue of her male partner forcing her to “victimize herself to the shameful act of encroachment upon the feminine liberty of maintaining her pride and self esteem” through an already agreed and legally viable contractual agreement of marriage which is considered to be one of the most sacred of human relationships. The court cannot stipulate the male partner as to how he should act on the bed. Nor can the court control the actions ensued on the nuptial extravaganza. If the woman cannot tolerate it, she has to peacefully try to convince him of the issue and gradually bring him to accept her notions too of the two divergent sides of the same coin. Tolerance, acceptance and peaceful settlement are the only solutions possible.